I am absolutely overwhelmed by the amazing amount of support I have received from everyone on my blog, tumblr, twitter, and google+ regarding my loss of Socks. Being a blogger and having a close network of friends online has been such a blessing and I truly appreciate all of the kind words, prayers, and thoughtfulness of everybody. Thank you all. We received Socks’ ashes on Saturday morning in a tiny little flowered tin that is just perfect for her. She was a little Italian princess cat, dainty as can be. It’s currently sitting in our kitchen which was one of her favorite rooms on our shelf so we can always have dinner with her like we used to. With all of that being said, again, I send a heartfelt thank you to everyone who supported me within the past few weeks. It means so much to me! <3
Since the title of my post also has the word "healing" in it. I've taken some time to consider what helps me to heal and I wanted to talk about them with all of you because we all have trials and tribulations we need to get through during our lives. Grief can take a toll on you emotionally, but also mentally and physically. So, these are some of the things that I do (and have done recently) to channel my emotions in a positive direction.
Creativity and Clutter: You already have seen my scrapbook, but I’ve also gotten creative with my nails, my outfits, and I’ve been organizing some of the clutter around my desk and work area. It helped me to keep my mind busy, but it also got me ready to take on the MANY projects I have coming up. The semester starts in two days and I have to get ready to teach!
Working out: I’m Italian and I eat when I’m sad, I’ll admit it. Since I let myself have about a week of not caring what I eat I went to the gym. I was angry that Socks was sick and I took it out on the treadmill, crosstrainer, and pull up bar. It felt good and I didn’t gain any weight during my week long eat-fest.
Spending time with friends: With the semester coming to a start soon, I knew there would be certain people I won’t get to see as often–MY GIRLFRIENDS! I made the effort to get myself out of the house and talk to people about what was going on, how I felt, and to hear what’s been going on with them too. Turns out 2012 has been rough on a few people so far.
Journaling: You already know that I do a lot with my paper and pen, but I kept it going and got myself to write down memories, raw emotions, and more. It helped me get it out without bottling up everything inside.
Spending money: I mean this in the most controlled way possible. I bought myself some treats at Barnes and Noble. It helped to cheer me up. Some modest retail therapy has never hurt anyone!
I know that many of you have had your share of losses over the years, and I’m curious: What do you do to heal? What to do you try to do to help yourself deal with emotions? I’d love some suggestions!
Much like the creative part you mentioned first, I like to organize when I’m upset. I go through clutter, sort, discard useless items, and put everything away in a much neater way. Consequently, when I’m calm and happy the exact opposite happens: my house starts to look like a disaster area, especially my favourite places like the couch in the living room or the bedroom.
If my house is spic and span, we’re either having visitors or something has really upset me.
Another thing that helps me is to try something new. The thrill of a new experience usually takes the edge off a disappointment or sadness.
Keep on keepin’ on. You’re doing so well so far, and you should be really proud of yourself.
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Sorry to hear about your loss but i’m glad to hear that you’ve channeled your feelings into a positive outlet! 2012 is a new year~~whooo
Glad to hear someone else also enjoys declutering! doesn’t it just instantly lift the mood? Maybe I am a neat freak hahah!
I couldn’t agree with you more about exercising and spending time with friends. I’m not one to spend time with people all day everyday (because I need time to myself), but when I do chill with people, I definitely feel “re-energized”
I love shopping!! hahah it’s like simple gratification..but of course we have to watch our own budgets
happy new year! wishing you the best <3
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My first time on your blog.
Aww, I know how losing a beloved pet feels. Last month I lost my dear puppy too and I was so upset about it. It really is painful but I know time could heal it. They say that getting a new pet helps but I don’t believe so…
And hey, spending isn’t that bad. I think you deserve to give yourself some reward after being such a strong and pretty person.
- Rainy
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I am glad you found a way to cope with it.
I agree with all of the things regarding healing that you mentioned above except one. I don’t really think spending money helps. I does help for a little while but makes you feel more depressed afterwards because you just wasted money. haha. I feel that way. :/
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I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better.
I agree with everything you’ve mentioned above too, especially the spending time with other people one. Sometimes I have to really push myself to do this, but I usually feel better once I have.
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Grieving is a long process, though it varies for different people. It looks like you’re looking on the positive side though, which is always the best thing to do to heal. Surround yourself with love and things that keep you smiling.
Retail therapy is sometimes one of the best things a girl can do to cheer herself up! One too many times I’ve bought myself something and I’ve just felt loads better. Getting creative is also really fun, though I usually do that on the internet in terms of designing and creating or writing. Whatever works! <3
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glad you’re feeling better, it takes time and grief isn’t a bad thing either, it shows how much socks meant to you T^T never forget her! though i’m sure you won’t
going out with friends definitely helps and working out too!
hm… well i pretty much do what you do and i read a lot!
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I’m so glad that you are feeling a bit better. For me, I always have to be busy and feel like I am out and adventuring. It doesn’t have to be as intense as moving across the world (because hey, I can only do that once) but I like to be always doing something fun! Being creative works too. I found that exercising also helps me because as silly and cliche as it sounds, the endorphins in my brain really get going and I just feel happier. I love bike riding.
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